Whilst I’m almost sure I subconsciously decided what kind of man I'd marry when I was eight, it didn't in truth register as a decision until I overheard one of my aunts pouring her heart out to my mother about her latest romance-gone-wrong…

Alice stopped speaking to me one day because I didn't give the requisite response to the news that her friend's husband was having an affair. ⠀

In my defence, it was lunch time, and I was therefore way too hungry to muster up enough surprise, indignation and ire to satisfy her.

In her defence, she thought I was a "woke" Naija chick who would immediately start venting, whisk out my little black book, and give her the name of the best divorce lawyer in town. ⠀

That was soooo not happening…

In this week's podcast, my guests Kayleigh & Immanuel Böker chose to discuss one of the challenges they have been working through as a young married couple. I found it insightful and encouraging, and hope you do too.

For anyone who hasn't noticed, the world is changing - and has been for some time. And it hasn't just been about the stuff that has come hurtling at us full-throttle; it’s very much crept up on us in subtle and almost imperceptible ways.

Poor mental health, for many reasons, is something that has often been ignored within the black community; with black men specifically being encouraged to suppress their emotions.

My guest, Kimani Reid, feels that physical strength has taken precedence and resulted in a lack of emotional intelligence; with many men caught up in a silent battle, unable to articulate their feelings.

When I asked my guest (and good friend) Nyasha what she was passionate about right now, she said it had to be the prevalence of cognitive dissonance. So, we sat down and chatted about how that works during a pandemic and in an age of social media…among other things!